Submit, Submission, Submissive?

Submit, Submission, Submissive

Husband and I in a Photo Shoot. Don’t I look so Submissive ūüôā

Let’s learn what to Submit really means and what it does not mean. So… if you read my last post you know I shared “My Struggle With Becoming a GODly Wife“. If you haven’t read it yet, please head over and read it before diving into this post as this is a continuation of that post. Click here to read it now.

Let’s talk about probably on of the abused and misused words in the B.I.B.L.E….”Submit” and what it is and what it is not…

Let’s Define “Submit

The definition from the top of google search: to accept or yield to a superior force or to the authority or will of another person.

Definition from Merriam Webster:
to stop trying to fight or resist something: to agree to do or accept something that you have been resisting or opposing.

Now, based on the definition of the word “Submit“, it is not talking about making oneself a slave or being treated like one. It is not talking about totally giving up who you are as a person, your desires, thoughts, opinions and completely loosing yourself. It’s not talking about being bossed around by someone and not having any say. It’s not talking about a dictatorship. As you see, it has nothing to do with dominance or intimidation like some people think when they hear the word “Submit“. It is talking about respect and how you look at/see/view a person and acknowledging the authority that they have been given and set in order by GOD and responding to that authority accordingly. If you look at your husband and see CHRIST, you should not have a problem Submitting.

“Here’s A Great Analogy”

If GOD Is the head of CHRIST and CHRIST is the head of the man and the man is the head of the woman, replace the heads accordingly and now you have your husbands head on your body and CHRIST head on your husbands body. When you look at your husband you should see CHRIST and when your husband looks at you, he should see himself. This reminds me of when my husband and I met for the first time and much later we discussed what we both experienced at the time we met. One of the things that stood out for both of us is, he saw himself in me and I saw myself in him. I was trying to figure out how could I see myself in a man and vice versa…I was puzzled about this for awhile but later it all made perfect sense.
Ephesians v25-33
25 Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for it;
26 That he might sanctify and cleanse it with the washing of water by the word,
27 That he might present it to himself a glorious church, not having spot, or wrinkle, or any such thing; but that it should be holy and without blemish.
28 So ought men to love their wives as their own bodies. He that loveth his wife loveth himself.
29 For no man ever yet hated his own flesh; but nourisheth and cherisheth it, even as the Lord the church:
30 For we are members of his body, of his flesh, and of his bones.
31 For this cause shall a man leave his father and mother, and shall be joined unto his wife, and they two shall be one flesh.
32 This is a great mystery: but I speak concerning Christ and the church.
33 Nevertheless let every one of you in particular so love his wife even as himself; and the wife see that she reverence her husband.

So, after looking at these scriptures, we can conclude that it is impossible for a True Man of GOD to mistreat a True Woman of GOD when they have both really Submitted themselves to GOD and each other!

“Things That Women Say And Think”

“There is no way I’m going to Submit to no man. I’m going to do my own thing my own way and ain’t no man telling me what I can and can’t do. I’m my own boss. I just can’t! I’m going to tell him what to do”. I once thought and talked like this myself because of my daddy/man issues. If this is your stance then maybe you are not called to the ministry of marriage and/or is probably one of the reasons you are still single or not married yet. How are you praying for or wanting a husband and you don’t even know how to treat a man? You expect GOD to send you HIS best man and you don’t even know how to treat him? Not saying that GOD can’t and HE won’t because HE did in my situation but this is not the norm (This was GOD’S way for me because of HIS purpose and plans and this is what HE used to help me get deliverance in this area). This is also not saying that you have to have it all the way together either because there is always room to grow. If you haven’t learned how to Submit or how to treat a man, you will get into that marriage and talk down to that man and not build him up, and you won’t respect and honor him because the way you see him is based on the way you think and many problems will arise. You will cause a lot of emotional hurts and pains that can not be undone. And… because you have not learned how and when to shut up, you will chase him off with your mouth. It’s a meek and quiet spirit ladies not a loud and aggressive one! Learn how to Submit to GOD first!

“Consequences Of Sin Entering The World”

Because of the sin of Adam and Eve, GOD issued consequences out to them and all of us that would come after them that are in full affect even unto this day. Genesis 3:16
16 Unto the woman he said, I will greatly multiply thy sorrow and thy conception; in sorrow thou shalt bring forth children; and thy desire shall be to thy husband, and he shall rule over thee.
This is GOD’S order and this is HIS way. It’s not saying that the man is better than the woman or anything like that it’s just the way GOD has established it. Yes, we are all equal when it comes to salvation meaning there is no difference between male and female and so on but when it comes to creation and order there is a difference and like it or not honey, it is what it is, the man was created first and he is the head. (I hated it when I was first confronted with it because it didn’t line up with my way of thinking).

“Don’t Get It Twisted”

Ladies, don’t allow the enemy to trip you up with this feminist moving that is sweeping our nation disguising itself as a good thing when there is another agenda behind it. Supporting women and equal rights is one thing and that’s fine but trying to lead and be over a man is another. Be careful with trying to control and lead a man even if it’s from behind the scenes because this is what Jezebel was guilty of and it’s also unnatural. I call it a (homosexual) spirit where the woman is trying to be like the man. It’s still GOD’S way that matters, nothing else.¬†You can look at it this way also, if you have a hard time Submitting to a man than most likely you are having a hard time Submitting to GOD as well. If you have a problem Submitting to GOD than you definitely will have a hard time Submitting to a man. Alot of times you will see a woman Submit to “her Pastor” before she Submits to her own husband. If that ain’t out of order and crazy, I don’t know what is! Ladies, your husband¬† is your Pastor. He is the one that is to wash you with the Word. He is the one you listen to above anybody under the LORD. He is the one that teaches you along side of The HOLY SPIRIT.

“Submission Is All Around Us”

Based on the definition, we all have to Submit to someone at some point in our lives. If you work on a job then you have to Submit to your boss and they have to Submit to their boss. You wouldn’t talk to or at your boss any kind of way because you fear loosing your job. When you were a child you had to Submit to your parents. You didn’t talk to your parents any kind of way and if you did you received correction, hopefully. We have to Submit to the laws of this land and the government as long as they are not contrary to the Word of GOD and then of course its better to obey GOD than man. So you see, it’s just a matter of perception. How you look at/see it/view it. When you don’t Submit to the authority that GOD has placed in your life and the authority HE has put in place, HE can’t get the Glory! Whatever we do should be done as unto the LORD! This really helped me in my thinking about Submission. I do it as unto the LORD first and foremost and it helps that my husband makes it super easy for me to Submit to his GODLY leadership because he Loves me, Honor and Respects me like he is supposed to. He listens to me and values what I have to say. He includes me in all important decisions and he would rather we agree on something than him usurping his authority over me. We Submit to one another in the LORD! Even though women were told to Submit unto their own husbands and reverence them, we also Submit to one another, recognizing and respecting the true order of the authority and headship and the proper order and place/position of both the husband and wife. Ephesians 5v21¬†Submitting yourselves one to another in the fear of God.

I could see how the very sound of the word Submit could leave a distaste in the mouth of some women because of the way some men in various cultures have abused the word and used it to mistreat women for such a long time. Submission should never be used to LORD over you or cause you to do something that is not legal or ethically sound. Your Submission should be as unto and in the LORD.
Colossians 3v23-24
23 And whatsoever ye do, do it heartily, as to the Lord, and not unto men;
24 Knowing that of the Lord ye shall receive the reward of the inheritance: for ye serve the Lord Christ.

“Let GOD Be GOD”!

Ladies……… this is one of the reasons why it is so important to let GOD pick your man and not you pick him. The man GOD hand picks for you will be HIS best for you and that man will never use his GOD given authority in a domineering way. Get yourself a man that Loves and is Submitted to his GOD, then you got yourself a man honey! The right man has a lot to do with your willingness and ability to Submit to him especially if you already have struggles in this area. He should make it easy for you, not hard. The bible also in 1 Peter 3v7 tells men
7 Likewise, ye husbands, dwell with them according to knowledge, giving honor unto the wife, as unto the weaker vessel, and as being heirs together of the grace of life; that your prayers be not hindered.

The Bible tells us that we as women were created to be the man’s help meet/help mate.
1 Corinthians 11v8-9
8 For the man is not of the woman: but the woman of the man.
9 Neither was the man created for the woman; but the woman for the man.
Genesis 2v18
18 And the Lord God said, It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him an help meet for him.
We are to help the man become who GOD has called him to be and do what GOD has called him/us to do in the earth and in doing so we will learn and be released to be who GOD has called us to be and do what GOD has called us to do as women unto other women. While you are helping your husband, GOD and your husband will also be helping you. Our home is our first and greatest ministry ladies. So many of you are trying to do ministry outside the home and your first ministry, (your home) is not in order, so you are operating out of order and GOD is a GOD of order!
1 Corinthians 14v40
40 Let all things be done decently and in order.

Soooo…. What Have We Learned About The Word Submit/Submission?

It’s not so bad after all, right? It’s really a beautiful thing and needful if you are married or desire to be married. It’s really a matter of perspective, how you look at/see it/view it. You can choose to look at/see it/view it as something good or something bad and you will respond¬† accordingly. If you are married and want to be in the perfect will of GOD, then I suggest you start by learning how to do what GOD has told you to do and Submit to HIS man, your man, your husband. How do you expect to do anything that HE can truly get the Glory out of if you can’t first obey HIM in your home as it is your first ministry. ¬† ¬† ¬† ¬† ¬† ¬† ¬†1 Samuel 15v23
23 For rebellion/disobedience is as the sin of witchcraft, and stubbornness is as iniquity and idolatry. Because thou hast rejected the word of the Lord, he hath also rejected thee from being king.

***Continual disobedience in this area will cause further delays in your life ladies. GOD does not take this lightly.

Let’s Recap And Break This Thing On Down…

To Submit/be in Submission and Submissive is to accept/agree, yield to, stop fighting, and lay aside your will for the will of the person in authority. It is to trust that person has your best interest in mind and that they have the capability to effectively lead you. In relationship to marriage it is also to trust that your husband hears from GOD and has a relationship with HIM to receive the vision for your family and lead you all accordingly. It is recognizing all the many responsibilities that he has. He is to love you, honor and respect you, protect you, cover you, pray for you and wash you in the word of GOD, watch for your soul, teach you, lead you, take care of you, and so much more including the responsibilities to the rest of the family. This does not take away from the many responsibilities of the wife at all because we do have alot ourselves but that’s for another post. To Submit is to agree with JESUS when HE said in Luke 9v23
And he said to them all, If any man will come after me, let him deny himself, and take up his cross daily, and follow me. John 3v30 said; He must increase, but I must decrease.
Basically, you gotta die! You gotta crucify that flesh and get out of the way sweetheart. It’s not about you!
Matthew 26v4b the spirit indeed is willing, but the flesh is weak.

***And to those of you who say, I married the wrong man so I don’t have to Submit to him, Wrong!¬† You married him so you still are required to Submit to him as long as he is not leading you wrong or trying to get you to do something immoral or illegal.

****1 Peter 3v1-7
1 Likewise, ye wives, be in subjection to your own husbands; that, if any obey not the word, they also may without the word be won by the conversation of the wives;
2 While they behold your chaste conversation coupled with fear.
3 Whose adorning let it not be that outward adorning of plaiting the hair, and of wearing of gold, or of putting on of apparel;
4 But let it be the hidden man of the heart, in that which is not corruptible, even the ornament of a meek and quiet spirit, which is in the sight of God of great price.
5 For after this manner in the old time the holy women also, who trusted in God, adorned themselves, being in subjection unto their own husbands:
6 Even as Sara obeyed Abraham, calling him lord: whose daughters ye are, as long as ye do well, and are not afraid with any amazement.
7 Likewise, ye husbands, dwell with them according to knowledge, giving honor unto the wife, as unto the weaker vessel, and as being heirs together of the grace of life; that your prayers be not hindered.
(Ain’t nobody got time for no hindered prayers y’all)

*****(All of 1 Peter 3 is good food to meditate on, I suggest you go look it up now and meditate on it)

*****Are you a Submissive wife? Comment down below and let me hear your heart on the matter.

*****I have so much more to say to you but time is limited and so am I. Until next time, May the Grace of GOD keep you and yours and I bid you farewell with a Heavenly Kiss 😚


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